Have you ever thought to just let him be? To try and put your needs and desires to get inside, off to the side for a moment and to just enjoy his company and all the things you enjoy about his presence? I just feel like you’re really working yourself up into a lather about this. People can only give of themselves emotionally what they’re ready to give. The harder you push, sometimes the more they resist. Remember why you liked him in the first place. In the end, maybe you’ll look back and think “perhaps it wasn’t as big a deal as I thought it was”. Just saying … with love of course.