I’ve been thinking about this in particular, a lot lately. My mother always says “I forgive but I don’t forget”. For me, the two things have always seemed mutually exclusive. If you’re always on guard with someone for fear that they will hurt you again, how can you have possibly forgiven them? I’ve been thinking about it because Agathe and myself have both had people treat us poorly in life, sometimes in ways which are completely unforgiveable. That’s one of the things we’ve bonded over. And I am constantly learning from her because she is a way more forgiving person than I am, but when is enough enough? When do you aweigh your anchor and sail away??
One thing I know for sure, is that forgiveness is essential. Not for them. But for you.